“The earth seems to be upside down since I ask him about his current relationship.”
I met this guy on online dating apps he lives in Nigeria and I live in Thailand. When we first matched in April we did not talk that much and we did not connect but he added me on Instagram and exchange whatsapp and we never talk again since April.
He comes back to talk to me on Instagram again in September but this time he is different from the first time he has more interested in me and ask me more question and that keep us engaging in the conversation we chat every day before I decide to call him on WhatsApp because that time I think we are connecting and I want to know if it is better if we talk on the phone.
We talk on the phone every day from the first day and it 15 days now. Every day we will talk from 10, 30 to 60 mins I feel really connect with this guy and I never talk to anyone this long since my secondary school. I feel so fresh like I am 15 years old again he is a good communicator, a good listener, and good at the start engaging the conversation.
One day I told him that I am afraid of falling in love with you and he said why I said that because he did not do anything for me and I told him we talk a lot and I feel connected with you which is I never feel this way with anyone and you talk to me very good and polite. (Am I living in a fairy tale?)
Yesterday is his birthday I sent him Instagram GIF and a video to wish him a birthday. And I ask him about his current relationship he told me he and Ex broke up in February and return to meet and connect again in July they hanging out, having dinner and make out some time, and finally, they agree that doing these things is wrong because the Ex already have a new partner.
He told me he still loves Ex and he thinks that a relationship with me might do not work because we live far apart and he not sure if we will gel along well if we meet in person.
My world is upside down since then I feel love and fresh and happy but when I realize that all the time that I invest in this relationship might not happen as it always happens to me much time.
I always want to connect with a single guy who we can develop this relationship but why I always stuck, dating, falling in love with the emotionally unavailable guy why most of the guy I met will stick with the previous relationship or some of them are already have their own partner.
***Now I don’t know where I stand and should I stop talking to him a lot like before? because he did not want the same things as me and I might be wasting my time talking to the guy who might end up a return to his Ex who lives in the same country.
***And what should I do or ask a question next time to avoid emotionally connect and dating an unavailable guy.
